[brian_]

I dont really want to fit a industrial switch for direction.

Why? Just the appearance?

I came across this site here in the Uk, which is the sort of thing i would fit. what I like about it is that you have to press the brake pedal to activate the direction.

Looks bespoke made which mean its could be expensive. I am waiting on a call back

http://www.steeringdevelopments.co.uk/products/driving-controls-and-aids/electric-gear-selector

All that does is move a mechanical linkage. Even if you use it, you still a reversing switch which would be operated by this device.