The relay in your BMS is likely a dry contact to control the charger as a logic signal or to run the coil on a battery contactor, not as a charge current interrupter.
The inrush current on the DC side is irrelevant because the charger is a hardwired connection in most circumstances though a battery contactor, not your puny BMS relay. This is why they said connect DC before AC. Nothing stopping you from precharging those caps to protect your contactor.
The notion of 4M ohms being a phantom drain on the battery at 100 microamps is ludicrous.
Part of the problem may be Kelly's, but most that I see is bad application understanding & design on your side of the fence.
The inrush current on the DC side is irrelevant because the charger is a hardwired connection in most circumstances though a battery contactor, not your puny BMS relay. This is why they said connect DC before AC. Nothing stopping you from precharging those caps to protect your contactor.
The notion of 4M ohms being a phantom drain on the battery at 100 microamps is ludicrous.
Part of the problem may be Kelly's, but most that I see is bad application understanding & design on your side of the fence.